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Parents in the Know
 Studies show that parents can make a difference in regards to their child's sexual decisions.
You are most effective when you clearly define what you expect your children to do and not to do within the context of close family relationships with strong communication.
- If married, be a role model in your marriage. If single, be a role model in your relationships with those of the opposite sex, abstaining from sexual activity outside of marriage yourself.
- Try to give a strong sense of identity and worth to your child and set high standards for him or her.
- Have a special time with your child to discuss sex and abstaining from all sexual activity outside of marriage. Explain the benefits of abstaining and the risks of sexual activity outside of marriage. If you feel uncomfortable talking to your child about sex, don't worry about admitting that to him or her. Explain to your child that even though you are uncomfortable and he or she may feel uncomfortable too, you want him or her to be able to talk to you about anything. You may not know all the answers, but you can find them out for him or her.The way you respond to your child is more important than knowing all the answers. Children may become scared and confused about the changes in their bodies as they begin to go through puberty. To help with this anxiety, talk to your child about his or her current stage of development and the next stage as well.
- Continue giving your child healthy messages about sexuality throughout the teenage years.
- Establish and relate your expectations and ground rules about dating to your child.Try not to be overly permissive or overly strict in your rules.3 For younger teens, encourage staying involved with activities and friends in group settings and with their family and their friends’ families.
Questions Kids Ask About Sex: Honest Answers for Every Age.
From the Medical Institute for Sexual Health. Edited by Melissa Cox
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